032 - Mini Musing: Leaning into the Millionaire Mother Archetype
In today’s Mini Musing, I join you from the threshold of my daughter’s eighth birthday, and I vulnerably share the questions and cards that supported me through that portal.
Then I return to Cait Scudder’s archetype of the Millionaire Mother and unpack my feelings, anxieties, and excitement about the possibility of both being a mother and making money abundantly.
Join me as I weave a path dissolving my internal tension between the Mother and the Millionaire. Then DM me on Instagram @sarahtacyt and let me know how today’s episode landed with you.
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Episode Transcript
Sarah Tacy [00:00:05]
Hello, welcome. I'm Sarah Tacy and this is Threshold Moments, a podcast where guests and I share stories about the process of updating into truer versions of ourselves. The path is unknown and the pull feels real. Together we share our grief, laughter, love, and life-saving tools. Join us.
Sarah Tacy [00:00:38]
Hello, Threshold Moments. I am coming to you. I was gonna say, I'm coming to you live. Ooh, I'm coming to you raw. I'm recording on my daughter's eighth birthday and I am feeling this portal.
Sarah Tacy [00:00:57]
She wanted to know exactly what time she would be turning eight today. And I went into her baby book and saw the exact hour and minute and saw her little baby feet and saw the picture of when she was born. When I went into labor with her, I was doing all the things that I had learned. And once I was in the hospital and they broke my water and at that very moment I screamed, I'm scared and
Sarah Tacy [00:01:35]
I wasn't scared of the pain that was still to come. I was scared of becoming a mom. I was scared of losing myself. I was so overcome with joy when I got to reach down and deliver my own baby and bring her up to my body. And I felt such a high level of bliss and joy and gratitude that I felt the love and the bliss. And 100% I was given a baby who would really test all of my limits. I think about those years and I remember that I thought for sure I would just put my baby on my body and continue to live the same life I had always lived. I would teach yoga, many privates a week and I would travel and teach the teacher trainings.
Sarah Tacy [00:02:37]
And I did. I, I did travel to New York almost every month to teach teacher trainings. I started some in Maine. And once Sophia was old enough, I flew to DC, to the DC area to teach a 100 hour program there, just, you know, chunks of it once a month for a few months in a row. And I started leverage events here in Maine, but I was changed. I had so much less capacity and I was unsure who this person was who had so much less energy and who had what felt like so much less light. But in this place, I also met so many of my dearest friends who apparently didn't need me to be sparkly, didn't need me to be wildly successful. I met real people who wanted to be around a real person in the rawness, in the joy, in the suffering, in the sleepless nights, in the cuddly mornings. So this morning, I'll actually say yesterday, I got the opportunity to offer a nervous system support session for the Relaxed Money Group.
Sarah Tacy [00:04:01]
And there were some transitions happening, as there often are, between the end of August and September, between me stepping in for the previous person who was in that spot, who is no doubt beloved by the group. She is beloved by me. And it was so interesting that there I was saying, we will not rush this transition. And although you may not have all the time and place during this one session, if you're having feelings about the other guide not being here, that you could write about it, you could journal, you could talk to somebody, you could find a fight outlet, a flight outlet. And so here I am this morning, my daughter's birthday.
Sarah Tacy [00:04:49]
And I send her to her camp she's going to, and which I know they always celebrate the birthday person. They make a big banner, all the kids color on it. They make a crown, they make smoothies, they go for a hike, they sing songs. It's just the best place she could be. And I was like, why am I feeling so sad?
Sarah Tacy [00:05:08]
And I was just trying to rush into writing a newsletter or a separate podcast from this. And then I opened up my friend Cate Northrup's e-mail about transitions and I was like, oh my God, how many reminders do I need to remember transitions? And also reminded me of Sarah Jenks the other day when she posted about being up at the camp with her kids and not sleeping and her husband would be away for the next week and having that sacred start. I set up an altar with a mama owl and a baby owl. They're made out of stone, you know, something that's been here forever.
Sarah Tacy [00:05:52]
It's alive with all of its elements, the wisdom, the generational aspect. I lit a candle and I pulled cards from Megan Watterson's Divine Feminine Oracle. And the first card I pulled was, what do I need for me? The second card was, What do I need to be the best I can be for Sophia?
Sarah Tacy [00:06:19]
And the third card I pulled was the question, what message do I need today to help me bridge this threshold, this portal from maiden to mother, this journey that has brought me to my knees, that has opened my heart wider than it's ever been opened. So the first card I pulled was Lilith, the first woman, and the mantra says, I choose the life that I desire to live. And the next card for Sophia, what do we need to be there for Sophia? And it's Saint Brigid. And it says, I give endlessly because the light is without end.
Sarah Tacy [00:07:11]
My soul is all I need. The first sentence I read, I give endlessly because the light is without end. And I just chuckled. I'm like, right? Like if you are a caregiver, that element of giving endlessly and then mixing that with Lilith, the, I am the voice of my body and soul.
Sarah Tacy [00:07:32]
I choose the life that I desire to live and how sometimes those two can be just seem like impossible to go together. So the third card, how do I bridge this? How do I bridge these two? How do I walk through this threshold? Rita of Cassia, I am miraculous.
Sarah Tacy [00:07:57]
So via a miracle, the patroness of the impossible causes, the powerful channels of possibility. And so Tomorrow, my first e-mail goes out to support Cate Scudder's program, the three-day program that is called Matriarch that is all about this miraculous bridge. And I had thought, no, I'm just gonna, I'm not gonna do this. I just, I'm not honoring my own transition yet.
Sarah Tacy [00:08:36]
And I pulled these cards, and then, but then when I tuned in, I was like, no, this is so important. Like, it's such a yes in my body how important her program is. And so when I checked in, like, am I going to do this? Am I going to write the emails? Am I going to put the ads in?
Sarah Tacy [00:08:56]
Am I going to? And then it's just, yes, And as I looked at these cards, the patroness of impossible causes What is the bridge between Lilith and St. Brigid? I am a miracle.
Sarah Tacy [00:09:12]
My prayers create powerful channels of possibility prayers. And so the way I originally imagined this podcast before I was sitting in this threshold and really feeling, like really feeling the difference between eight years old and all the years before it, really feeling this threshold, really feeling her independence. For some reason I played the Cats in the Cradle this morning, one of the gifts that somebody gave her was that string game that you play with your hands. I think it's called Cat in the Cradle.
Sarah Tacy [00:09:55]
So I started singing this song. So I was like, Alexa, play Cat in the Cradle. And I'm like rocking out and singing it. And I was like, wait, this song is so sad. And am I this song?
Sarah Tacy [00:10:06]
Am I giving Sophia enough time? Am I missing out? Am I too busy? And this is where I realized, like really, really realized that to have as many examples as possible of people who are being true to themselves and also giving their light to whatever it is that they love, to whatever it is that they birthed, and to know that through miracle and prayer that both are possible.
Sarah Tacy [00:10:44]
If you are a mother or someone dreaming into being a mother and feels like it's complicated to figure out your new identity and how to be in business and be a present mother, Cate is offering a free three-day workshop August 28th, 29th, and 30th from 12 p.m. Eastern Standard Time until one. I will also offer a follow-up program for nervous system support on September 1st, 12 to 1 for anyone who signs up for this free program through me. The program is going to look at how to let go of your pre-motherhood identity and step into the new paradigm of creating wild success from the seat of your motherly power. what it means to be a present mother without sacrificing your business.
Sarah Tacy [00:11:41]
And I have to say for me that I know that there are unspoken contracts woven in to my body, into my belief system, that that's not possible. And I want to say here that I am ready to untie those contracts to let them go and lean into a new possibility. She will also be offering practical tools for shifting your business model and daily rhythms to be a motherhood friendly and create massive success. Day one is about identity. So I would say about how do we lean into the archetype of the matriarch, of the well-resourced mother.
Sarah Tacy [00:12:17]
Day 2 is the infrastructure of creating your support network. And day 3, the business end of innovation, impact, and income. If this is of interest to you, we will have a link below. I will definitely be there myself. I am really excited and I'm curious.
Sarah Tacy [00:12:38]
And it just feels like an authentic yes for me. And if you are feeling that in any way, again, the link is below and I will see you there. And then we can also see each other on September 1st at 1 o'clock for a little extra nervous system support. Cheers. I didn't think that I had a challenge with the idea that a mother could be successful and still be a great mother and be a fulfilled woman.
Sarah Tacy [00:13:15]
But if I'm being honest, maybe I thought it was a little bit dangerous. Because what happens to all those who think that they should be able to do everything and can't? But what I've realized, what I've realized through being in yoga for 20 years and being in this nervous system resolution work is that we're not aiming for perfect. There's no end goal that we get to be human and not feel pain, that we get to be human and not have frustration, that we get to be human and not feel jealousy or insecurity.
Sarah Tacy [00:14:00]
I think that this work of leaning into an archetype or finding support for the nervous system is that we have a greater capacity to be with the complexity of life and make more and more choices that are on behalf of what we actually desire and to unwind ourselves from old patterning. And so for me, I have begun to realize that I would love to actually believe in my bones, that there is a possibility that I could be a successful businesswoman and have time to do what it is I want to do with my family. And it's so easy for me to say, Oh, that's for her. That's out there.
Sarah Tacy [00:14:52]
But I want to go back to the earlier podcast I did about emotions as messengers that leaned in then to the idea of archetypes and leaned into what Tiffany Carter had recommended, which is saying like, oh, wait, I want that. That's for me. So just to say like, that's for me. So when I look at Cate Scudder and what she's offering, so just to be clear, I have said yes to this affiliate and I have, and so this podcast here is leaning into that, is leaning into what would that archetype look like. But if you are a no to the program, you can still find yourself here in this podcast.
Sarah Tacy [00:15:50]
You can still find yourself here to say, what is it? What archetype do I want to lean into? What is impossible in my mind? But if through going back to the card I pulled, the patroness of impossible causes, if I use my prayers to create a powerful channel of possibility, if I use my reticular formation or my reticular activating system to open up to new possibilities.
Sarah Tacy [00:16:26]
If I begin to seek out examples where it's possible and not just say, oh, well, that's only for them, but to say, that's for me. What does my form look like? My form may look a little different, but that's for me. When I hear Cate talk, and again, I have had the opportunity to be with her in mastermind settings, in group settings, around the dinner table, one-on-one with other women, like so many, and like with her kids at her kids' birthday parties, is that everything she's saying and everything she's talking about is actually real lived experience for her.
Sarah Tacy [00:17:13]
So when I think about the millionaire mother, A little bit of it is like using the word God for me, where there might be visuals that are behind it that aren't actually in alignment with the energetics of it. So when I change the word million to align with, for me, the word abundance, And it can be financial abundance too. There's like, I don't want to act as if I'm shaming the financial aspect of it, the financial abundance, spiritual abundance, abundance and support.
Sarah Tacy [00:17:53]
And mother as creative, the one being supported to create, to create life, to create projects, to bring beauty into the world. and through her creativity, the reciprocity that comes back in through, through right relationships, through right finances. And I think of this generosity that comes through. Because there's this cyclical nature about the feminine, and I'm not talking gender, I'm talking about the yin, the energy, the cyclical nature. that what comes through us then comes out, right?
Sarah Tacy [00:18:42]
That finances come in and I just think like, man, it's not, again, this is not a gendered thing, but that the feminine is like, and now where does this go? And how can I help? How can I be of service, but also pleasure? In my mind, I was going to do such, like such a, clear lined podcast on leaning into this archetype of the millionaire mother.
Sarah Tacy [00:19:14]
And instead, I've brought you into my portal of motherhood. But really, I think maybe you've heard that I had a death in me and a rebirth in me and a humble pie and a confusion. and a recalibration. And as I'm moving more and more into getting time to offer myself to the world as well, offer myself to myself as well, I am so open. Yeah, let this be heard.
Sarah Tacy [00:19:56]
I am so open to the millionaire mother, St. Brigid, our Lady of Exalted Light. I give endlessly because the light is without end. So this means I am not giving just from my own well. I am giving from my passion.
Sarah Tacy [00:20:16]
I'm like just trying to see the connection now. From the Lilith, the first woman. I choose a life that I desire to live. The millionaire mother, which would be the setting of the prayers to create the powerful channel of possibility. I get out of the way.
Sarah Tacy [00:20:35]
To hear the message. And I pray for that which I think I want, and I leave room for that which is actually true and possibly even better. That endless giving that I thought Saint Bridget was saying that Sophia needed, the light that is without end is when it comes from the soul. And when the soul is coming through a body and through a body that has life and desire, that light that St. Bridget offers glows even brighter.
Sarah Tacy [00:21:21]
So you are just here witnessing me being in the process of leaning into the archetype of the millionaire mother. the abundant resourced mother, that there's a possibility. And just to say that I'm not saying that therefore there would never be frustration, because then why would we be here on earth if we're not here to be part of the Great Mystery School to learn lessons? But 100% I'm here to call in resources, call in support, call in light, to give light, to give resources. to give love, to be open to the miracles, to take things that I thought were oppositions, but start to see how they feed each other.
Sarah Tacy [00:22:13]
And I know that is part of her messaging without pulling up her actual messaging packet that I could be pulling from right now, that I know that this is part of the message that it's not choosing either or. It's letting the Lilith in us. The one with desire, the one with passion, the one that has an individual expression, and letting the St. Bridget in us that is here to give from an endless source of light work together. That this is our miracle.
Sarah Tacy [00:22:49]
This is the patroness of the impossible causes. Thank you for tuning in for a completely raw, unscripted mini-musing. If you are interested in joining, and I will definitely be there myself for the free three-day matriarch workshop with Cate Scudder, there will be a link. And when you sign up through my link, you'll also get a call, a group call for whoever signs up. And maybe it's one of you.
Sarah Tacy [00:23:22]
So we have a one-on-one, or maybe it's a hundred of you. And so we get the group field of a hundred people who say yes. Yes, to the well-resourced creative. Yes, to the millionaire mother. Yes, to a matriarch.
Sarah Tacy [00:23:42]
Thank you so much for tuning in. I'm so curious, like, please send me a DM if this lights you up in any way, if you've felt something similar, if you put in a different word or a different Thing that you were leaning into where it feels like two oppositions that you don't know how they could feed each other, how they could weave and create support through their weaving. What is the miracle? What is the bridge?
Sarah Tacy [00:24:15]
As I often do, I'll end with the please show me. Please show me the miracle. Please show me the bridge. Please show me how two things that I saw in opposition are actually there to feed each other and light my soul and give more of my truth and gifts to the world. Amen.
Sarah Tacy [00:24:43]
Ah, ah, ah, ah Ah, ah, ah, ah, ah Thank you for tuning in. It's been such a pleasure. If you're looking for added support, I'm offering a program that's totally free called 21 Days of Untapped Support. It's pretty awesome.
Sarah Tacy [00:25:09]
It's very easy. It's very helpful. You can find it at sarahtacey.com. And if you love this episode, please subscribe and like. Apparently, it's wildly useful.
Sarah Tacy [00:25:21]
So we could just explore what happens. when you scroll down to the bottom, subscribe, rate, maybe say a thing or two. If you're not feeling it, don't do it. It's totally fine. I look forward to gathering with you again.
Sarah Tacy [00:25:35]
Thank you so much.